Making Your Christian Wedding
a Blessed Event - Page 2 of 3
To guests, Christian wedding ceremonies can often be
long and dry, or they can be too short and hurried.
The best way to share your love is to be expressive
in every part of your ceremony, no matter what the length.
Try to show to your guests who you are as a couple through
the different parts of your ceremony. For Matt and I,
this meant making the mood of our ceremony light and
throwing in some twists on the traditional order of
For starters, we began our wedding at 2:22 PM. We thought
this added some humor to our wedding, and if nothing
else, was something for our guests to talk about and
speculate on. Our wedding began with a welcome from
the Pastor, followed by our declaration of intent. After
we said our "I will's," he asked both of our parents
to stand. They were then asked to give their blessing
for our marriage. Next, he asked the whole congregation
to stand and asked them if they pledged to uphold our
marriage. Not, only did this keep them active, but it
really made them a part of our marriage for that day
and the years to come. Matt and I truly hope that they
took this seriously and will hold us accountable to
our marriage in the future, as they will probably be
the people we turn to for encouragement when needed.
Next in our wedding day line-up, we had "Passing of
the Peace". Many churches do this every Sunday morning,
and my dad really enjoys it. So, while everyone was
still standing, the Pastor asked them to greet one another
with signs of peace. This was absolutely wonderful!
All of the sudden, the whole sanctuary was a buzz as
people shook hands and hugged. And wow(!) was it a tension
breaker for Matt and I. We were able to hug each other
and take a moment to just look at one another without
worrying that everyone was staring at us.
After that, we got everyone to settle down again with
the singing of a hymn. Then we had two readings. Our
first reader read a poem we had found in, "The
Language of Marriage" by Blue Mountain Arts
Collections. The second reader read from the Bible.
Now, I have nothing against 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, but
wouldn't you agree that it is read at almost every wedding?
To make our wedding a little different we had the Corinthian
verses read and Philippians 2:1-4. In this way, we shared
a bit more of the Bible with our guests that may not
have experienced church except through weddings.
The next part was probably the most important of all,
though - our vows. Matt and I had agonized over these.
We wanted them to be very meaningful and reflective
of our relationship. After many attempts, we based our
vows on our scripture readings and "How Do I Love Thee?"
- a poem we really like by Elizabeth Barrett Browning.
Plus, Matt and I like to take walks, so in our vows
we said "On our walk of life" and things like that.
At our rehearsal, I turned around and was surprised
to see that everyone (and I truly mean everyone) was
in tears. That may be completely normal, but I thought
it was pretty awesome. (If you would like some advice on how to write your vows, take a look at "writing your own vows".)
By including our guests in our ceremony, keeping them
active, and making sure our wedding was slightly different
from others, I think we were able to convey to our guests
how important they are to us. And, by writing our own
vows, I believe they experienced the love that Matt
and I share. But that was not the end. We still had
the reception to go!